Becca Kufrin, Erich Schwer, and Garrett Yrigoyen Shutterstock; ;ABC; Shutterstock
A well-recognized feeling. Becca Kufrin in contrast Bachelorette winner Eric Schwer‘s blackface controversy to her former fiancé Garrett Yrigoen‘s 2018 social media scandal.
“I was in a very similar situation after coming off of my season, with the person that I chose,” the Minnesota native, 32, advised Gabby Windey on the Wednesday, September 21, episode of the “Bachelor Happy Hour Podcast” whereas discussing the drama Schwer, 29, sparked earlier than the season 19 finale. “At that moment in time, I was kind of like you [are now]I was very taken aback. You have this pit in your stomach and you don’t necessarily know where to turn.”
Kufrin added that on the time, she needed to offer Yrigoyen, 33, “the time and the means and the education to learn and grow and change” after followers found in May 2018 that he had “liked” offensive Instagram posts mocking girls, immigrants and college capturing survivors earlier than competing on The Bachelorette. “That’s what I was hearing [from him],” she recalled, earlier than noting that “ultimately, in my situation, that didn’t end up being the case.”
Becca Kufrin and Garrett Yrigoyen Gustavo Caballero/South Beach Photo/Shutterstock
She continued: “I learned two and a half years down the road that [Garrett’s] words and actions weren’t lining up.”
Kufrin and the medical gross sales consultant — who acquired engaged on season 14 finale of The Bachelorette in August 2018 — hit a tough patch in summer time 2020 as they disagreed over social points within the wake of George Floyd‘s dying. While the Bachelor in Paradise alum was an outspoken supporter of the Black Lives Matter motion, Yrigoyen shared a number of posts supporting the police amid nationwide protests and unrest.
“For those who are curious about my relationship with Garrett at this point, all I can say right now is I don’t know,” Kufrin stated throughout a June 2020 episode of “Bachelor Happy Hour,” including that she didn’t “align with” or “agree with” her then-fiancé’s posts. “I can’t give anything more than that. It’s something that we are trying to work through and discuss and do work on at home at this time, and that’s where the work will remain.”
Gabby Windey and Erich Schwer Craig Sjodin/ABC
After months of hypothesis, Kufrin confirmed in September 2020 that she and Yrigoyen had ended their engagement. “After many conversations, we came to this decision. It wasn’t something that we just arrived at one night,” the previous publicist tearfully advised podcast listeners on the time. “It wasn’t based solely off of one Instagram post or somebody else’s opinions or comments. There’s much more to it. … Just because we’ve arrived at this decision now doesn’t take away all of the years and the countless memories that we’ve made together.”
Yrigoyen moved on with Alex Farrar in October 2020, whereas Kufrin fell in love with Thomas Jacobs on season 7 of Bachelor in Paradise, which aired in August 2021. They introduced their engagement the next May.
While issues didn’t work out for the Bourdon founder after her Bachelorette journey, Windey stated that she hopes Schwer — who proposed throughout the Tuesday, September 20, season finale — is critical about studying and rising from his previous actions. “We haven’t had enough time yet to know because it all happened so recently,” she confessed to Kufrin and Michelle Young on Thursday. “I do think that he’s in a place where he wants to change and wants to grow. We talk about social issues so much because they are really important to me, so even before all this happened, he knew my opinions and I’m going to push him.”
Schwer additionally issued a public apology by way of Instagram shortly after a photograph of him in blackface from his highschool yearbook resurfaced on-line. “What I thought at the time was a representation of my love for Jimi Hendrix, was nothing but ignorance,” he stated in his September 9 assertion. “I was naïve to the hurtful implications of my actions to the Black community and those closest to me, and will forever regret my offensive and damaging behavior. I am deeply ashamed by my actions and understand that my apology is only the first step in taking accountability.”